Reasons why it's OK to change your mind

• I used to be a basic feminist who thought Caitlin Moran and Lena Dunham were great. I didn't understand what intersectionality meant.
• I had a teenage boyfriend who used to play 'Under The Bridge' on an acoustic guitar and for that reason alone I thought the Red Hot Chilli Peppers were not awful.
• Until relatively recently I had terrible taste in men and no boundaries.
• I was scared to speak up.
• Therapy helps.
• I have been to see the Foo Fighters live on more than one occasion.
• I pretended to like things I didn't so as not to offend people.
• I found it hard to get through 'The Golden Notebook' the first time I read it because at that time I didn't really understand it.
• I spent nearly two decades being embarrassed by my former love of Alanis Morissette before I realised that 'Jagged Little Pill' is genuinely a sublime album.
• I forgive people too easily.
• I still love PJ Harvey but she peaked for me with 'Stories From The City, Stories From The Sea' (and to a lesser extent 'Uh Huh Her') and her refusal to identify as a feminist is fucking annoying.
• I didn't like my friend Neil when I first met him.
• In fact, my first instincts about people are not always to be trusted.
• I can see now that Vincent Gallo is problematic and my poor taste in men was linked to my low self-worth. But still...
• I might try watching 'Fleabag' again. I didn't take to it on the first episode and didn't persevere.
• When I was a tiny child I genuinely thought I was going to marry either Dogtanian or Boy George.
• The idea of marriage used to fill me with horror.
• I once thought very short hair might turn me into Winona Ryder.
• I used to want to take up less space.
• I was snobby about 'Love Island' until I watched it.
• Because we're always learning and that's as it should be.